"An Intended Offense!!"

The writer of this blog post is, according to me a very courageous lady. This post is a letter addressed to women around her and it is an interesting take on "women as a community dynamics". Writer's consent has been duly taken before posting it. Credits for the post given in the end.

To,

~whomsoever concerned

(PS : only for ladies!)

Hello there! I hope everything is going well! Atleast it appears likewise to me! It is since a long time from now, I wanted to address you , because the informal, taken for granted attitude of yours, which started our story , was meant to end in a crisp, FORMAL manner!

In the journey of my life, I went through several ups and downs like everyone else, and I was glad, in that struggle of mine I had you! To have a check on me because the formalities were universally declared, yet limited upto a 3 word question, .

“Are you okay?” My mental health wasn’t your concern anymore when you wanted to compare your life worries by telling me even before I could finished telling you mine and you could have ever been patient enough to listen to my story for the 100th time , without mentioning the count to me everytime I vented it out infront of you!  I feel like, I wasted time of yours!

A female bestie! 

This phrase is so overrated, for me atleast! 

Racist terms were so not entertained in my life but now I think, I should definitely give a try! “My BABY , BAE, etc” ….

Literally it’s the end of my thinking capacity, these words that you used in those captions you posted on our photos, then later you commented on my posts, and later , the comment section became an open platform for your judgements, or rather taunt !

 I genuinely appreciate your talent ladies that how well you have mastered both of these talents, of caring for someone until that person is in your favor and hurting someone so brutally that it becomes impossible for her to continue loving you anymore because she couldn’t afford the thought of hating you for several flaws you possessed as your wings of pride. But dear, sorry! I can’t take this anymore.

 I can’t be dishonest with myself anymore and I just can’t live a life on a compromise! 

As I said I will entertain racist thoughts henceforth because boys are seriously much better than you in many ways and I can assure you this, without any guilt on today’s not so noble ocassion! 

Because the way you compare they don’t, they might not understand a girls complex emotions totally but they do listen, they don’t complicate things because they know there’s an easier way out. And most importantly, their mistakes, practical approach don’t hurt us that much but your casual, I don’t care and that attitude where you sensed the vibes of someone, especially a girl in some pain, yet you left her unnoticed… 

That hurts the most and THIS SUCKS! Afterall a women in me, just couldn’t stop myself from comparing us with men, for whom we have several reasons to blame, to show how we are superior than them, yet we never address this plus points of them and simply forget to minus the flaws in us!

The way a few bad men in the society have given the authority to judge and underestimate the entire male mob, similarly we haven’t given a try to think beyond these over charming feminist thoughts , ruling everyone’s mind! Because somehow they’re definitely hurting a women herself too, on a larger scale!

The expectations and universally declared qualities of a women aren’t fulfilled everywhere dear and it’s time to accept that yes we’re perfectly imperfect! It’s not just about declartion of celebrating every single day as women’s day on 8th March, but it’s a time to atleast being kind to them whom you have troubled but you sorted the matter for yourself by blaming them for their changed behaviour!

Yes, they CHANGED, they had to!

They changed because it was necessary for women like them, to prioritise their mental health for their own sake.

To stop underestimating themselves just because of your judgements.

She has already compromised on her friendship with your boyfriend and that with several other guys because of your insecurities.

She has to take a stand for herself after meeting a male friend to cut down the societies false remarks. And not only society, but she also has to take a stand against her parents and relatives , which makes her arrogant adult woman!

She has to find a paper to vent out her emotions, a bathroom and a running tap to make room for her piled up , saturated emotions! Sometimes it’s not the pillows that appear wet, but the scarf she ties perfectly over her face , to let the tears soak in!

Yes, she’s jealous to share her treasured people with you, because you found me too lucky to have that gems in my life and I found you like a undefined curse who robbed them and leaving you with zero regrets!

So lastly, I hate you….”dear”

And I hate this fact that I have started hating you! But there’s no turning back, there’s no room for your apologies and for your judgements over my typical Aunty like looks and thoughts!

Not so sorry for this intended insult. And thanking myself for excluding you from wishing and disrespecting you for the day!

Yours obediently,

A girl who finally got enough courage to give up on you! A girl who passed in accepting the reality that a girl can never understand some other girl because she’s busy enjoying cat fights!😜"

Shreya Ghosalkar,

(An Engineering student who has already found her backup option through blogging, thus creating more scope for rest of the Engineers💙)

Also published on her own blog. Click here to visit her personal blog.